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My 10 year old has a friend that recently shared with her that she is bi-sexual.
10 year olds arent sexual so what the hell does that mean?
10 year olds arent sexual so what the hell does that mean?
posted by Gigglezngrinz at 4:43 PM
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I knew when I was that young, younger actually. Didn't you know that you liked boys, even at age 5 (beyond their cooties, and all!)... You may not have been sexual, but you probably knew you would be married to a man or whatever. It works the same way, no matter the sexual orientation...for most people, I think.
It does make you think a little differently, though. I remember when I told my mom I was bisexual when I was 14. She had gay friends while I was growing up and really I expected a better response from her. But, she said, "You are too young to know that." Ok, well, now I am 26. I am SURE of it. In fact, if I ever get divorced (sad, I even think like this) I think I won't even try for a guy. For the last year, if I am out, I only look at girls and go to gay or open bars.
Anyway, good eye-opening topic. It is good to hear from you more often, again!
Take care!
Your comment makes it make more sense, I never really thought of it that way. I liked boys and I liked girls, but how do you know at that age in what WAY you like them. I never wanted to kiss either (that cootie thing) so how do you know what the feelings are. I can admire a pretty woman but have no desire to touch her. At 10 you still hold hands with your best friend. I think Im confusing myself even more. ugh...
I was shocked. She didnt exactly tell me...she came home wanting to know what a bi-sexual was. She then told her sister, who told me later maybe this wasnt a great kid for her to be hanging out with. Not just because of that, but she uses foul language as well. I asked her how her friend would KNOW and she was just as dumbfounded as me.
I have a tomboy as well. Not any more of an indication of sexuality than my neighbors son who used to wear his moms high heels over to my house to borrow milk.
I dont like the exposure either. It's just too early to be so consumed with things like that.
well i didnt come into my bisexuality until my late 30s lol, but i do know i love being with a woman and just like guys...however, my youngest daughter told me she was bi at age 16 and i really wasnt surprised...guess the apple dont fall far from the tree lol
anyway, i think my daughter had bi tendencies at a very young age too but didnt really "come out" to me until as i said, age 16. she's had relationships with both girls and boys, and right now she's in her "i like boys stage" which is cool with me. she is also a tomboy, but yet she doesnt dress like a butch, instead she's still very feminine, but unlike most girls she's not into makeup, false hair (she has a head full that's au naturel)and acrylic nails--except when she feels like getting them done. and *sigh* her choice of female lovers were of the "stud" or "butch" variety. but who was i to question that, hey, that is/was her preference.
girls these days are a lot more open about their sexuality than most of us who grew up in the 50s, 60s, and 70s. sometimes it is a "phase" sometimes it isnt. i think it's just like you "know" when you are in love, it just feels right deep down in your soul, so i would say the same with being bi, lez, or gay...if it's what feels good and comfortable to you, then hey....it is what it is.
after my first experience, i "knew" it felt good to me and i was very comfortable (and still am) being bisexual.
and to give you a clear definition of bisexual..
a bisexual person is an individual who is attracted to both sexes.
there are happily married women who have another woman as her "secret" lover, as there are happily married men who have their "secret" lovers. some people misconstrue bisexuals as "fence sitters", "they fuck anything that moves" and "confused"
not so. we are people who happen to enjoy sex with partners of same sex...sometimes in a long term relationship (as i had and am now trying to renew), sometimes just for additional erotic play, hence the "threesomes" that go on within marriages or couples, who want to add a little "spice" to their sexual lives, and sad as it is to say, men really get jiggy when there's two women sexin' each other, but always wanna break up the party (been there, done that lol)and its men who sometimes have a problem with their wives/girlfriends keeping a sexual relationship, which is why most women keep it "on the down low" or in secrecy.
if you want to know more about it you can visit this site
www.bisexualresource.com
sorry didnt mean to turn this into the sequel to "War and Peace" lol
Mizz, thats alot of info and I truly appreciate your input. It casts some light for me, I guess where Im baffled is the age. I understand being sexually active in your teens, or at least being aware of who you want to be active with. That is exactly what concerned me. Is what this child saying is "I want to have sex with boys and girls?" When my daughter likes a boy I am completely confident that it is not because she wants to sex him up, but rather maybe hold his hand during rollerskating. Is it the same feeling? her friend wants to hold hands with everyone or is it a sign that she knows more than she needs to about sex.
I'm not confused about my sexuality. I am a lesbian and I am proud!
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