Mr Live In Thinks Im Stupid
For the past few weeks, Mr Live In has been in a perpetual state of PMS. I have tolerated it for the most part, everyone gets cranky or feels the need to let it all out and download. Fine with me but the downloading came to a screeching halt today when he came and had lunch with me.
We have lived together for about 6 months. When we combined households we do what most couples do and keep the best of whatever items we have duplicated. Since I had to start over 2 years ago for for everything from a hand towel to a sofa, my stuff was newer and it stayed. We tossed his ratty bath towels, his broken down couch and his little washer and dryer.....gone.
We both have computers and up until today at lunch, I assumed it would just stay that way.
All of the kids have computer games, all of them occasionally surf the internet and with that comes kids downloading things they shouldnt and installing games you would really rather they didnt just leave on there to bog down the necessary programs.
His compter looks better than mine, it is newer. Mine is faster but is looking kinda shoddy from moving it around. Still, it has no operating problems, its just kinda ugly. He is anal about the kids putting anything on his and every weekend he is home he scours the fucker looking for things that shouldnt be there. If he finds something, you hear about it repeatedly throughout the day and are reminded regularly thereafter. I hate it. I hate the "AH-HA" you were into my shit attitude. You are not a crime scene detective asshole, this is a family.
We tried to solve the problem by putting a password on the administrator account and having a kids account that didnt allow for downloading. That worked fairly well until one Saturday morning I had a child at my computer (password free) and his son wanted to play a game on his computer. Dad simply gave him the password and sent him on his way. I was slightly annoyed as I had strict instruciton not to tell anyone the password .... evidently that meant just dont tell MY children. So when he went out of town, I gave it up. Everyone knew it, everyone used it. There have been no downloading complaints in weeks, I was happier it was no longer an issue. That is until my daughter logged onto his computer, typed in the password and he blew up at me for telling her what it was. I assumed it was ok to tell, since he had told his son. Oops. Silly me. I believe in fairness across the board, no special exceptions. Everyone is equal.
So last week I tried to get on his computer to check my mail since someone was at mine playing a game. It had been locked. Nobody mentioned a new password. I knew what he had done. He figured if I was going to be loose lipped, he would lock me out as well. Fine with me. I didnt care.....until today at lunch.
Retarded boyfriend: "We have too much crap, maybe we should get rid of one of the computers."
Me: " Ok, well it would have to be your computer then."
RB: "I have given away enough of my stuff, it is time for you to give up something."
Me: "Fine, just not my computer. I need a computer for kids to do homework and since I have been locked out of yours, but likely wouldnt lock you out of mine, yours will have to go."
RB: "I dont want to get rid of mine."
Me: "You are the one complaining that there is two. Come to think of it, that's all you have done for at least two weeks is complain. I'm not going to have a computer in the house that I have to have your permission to use. Nor will I have one that you feel the need to search for hours to find things that shouldnt be there, only to listen to you bitch for days that someone has touched your shit. I am not into playing this little control freak game you have going on right now and Im am not going to particpate or agree to anything that will promote more of it. "
RB: "I found what I want for my birthday."
Me: "Tell me about it"
RB: " A flat screen tv for me and the house."
That freakish control thing he gets going every so often must be some kind of ego trip. He has always been big on nice birthday gifts for me, so in most cases I would not think twice about giving him whatever he wants. It did surprise me a little that he asked for an $800 present when he bought me flowers and a vase for my birthday. Not to mention the fact that he just bitched at me two nights ago for spending $14 on the bathroom!!! $14!! I re-tiled the floor myslef for $14 and he was mad!!! Of course, I didnt listen then either, I just hung up the phone and left it off the hook. Mature, yea, I know, but like I said before, I'm not into listening to regular rants and complaints. (If he needs to download, he should start blogging)
To try to appease this outlandish request by trying to include "the house" is ridiculous. We cant even share a computer without a fight.
He must think I'm stupid.
We have lived together for about 6 months. When we combined households we do what most couples do and keep the best of whatever items we have duplicated. Since I had to start over 2 years ago for for everything from a hand towel to a sofa, my stuff was newer and it stayed. We tossed his ratty bath towels, his broken down couch and his little washer and dryer.....gone.
We both have computers and up until today at lunch, I assumed it would just stay that way.
All of the kids have computer games, all of them occasionally surf the internet and with that comes kids downloading things they shouldnt and installing games you would really rather they didnt just leave on there to bog down the necessary programs.
His compter looks better than mine, it is newer. Mine is faster but is looking kinda shoddy from moving it around. Still, it has no operating problems, its just kinda ugly. He is anal about the kids putting anything on his and every weekend he is home he scours the fucker looking for things that shouldnt be there. If he finds something, you hear about it repeatedly throughout the day and are reminded regularly thereafter. I hate it. I hate the "AH-HA" you were into my shit attitude. You are not a crime scene detective asshole, this is a family.
We tried to solve the problem by putting a password on the administrator account and having a kids account that didnt allow for downloading. That worked fairly well until one Saturday morning I had a child at my computer (password free) and his son wanted to play a game on his computer. Dad simply gave him the password and sent him on his way. I was slightly annoyed as I had strict instruciton not to tell anyone the password .... evidently that meant just dont tell MY children. So when he went out of town, I gave it up. Everyone knew it, everyone used it. There have been no downloading complaints in weeks, I was happier it was no longer an issue. That is until my daughter logged onto his computer, typed in the password and he blew up at me for telling her what it was. I assumed it was ok to tell, since he had told his son. Oops. Silly me. I believe in fairness across the board, no special exceptions. Everyone is equal.
So last week I tried to get on his computer to check my mail since someone was at mine playing a game. It had been locked. Nobody mentioned a new password. I knew what he had done. He figured if I was going to be loose lipped, he would lock me out as well. Fine with me. I didnt care.....until today at lunch.
Retarded boyfriend: "We have too much crap, maybe we should get rid of one of the computers."
Me: " Ok, well it would have to be your computer then."
RB: "I have given away enough of my stuff, it is time for you to give up something."
Me: "Fine, just not my computer. I need a computer for kids to do homework and since I have been locked out of yours, but likely wouldnt lock you out of mine, yours will have to go."
RB: "I dont want to get rid of mine."
Me: "You are the one complaining that there is two. Come to think of it, that's all you have done for at least two weeks is complain. I'm not going to have a computer in the house that I have to have your permission to use. Nor will I have one that you feel the need to search for hours to find things that shouldnt be there, only to listen to you bitch for days that someone has touched your shit. I am not into playing this little control freak game you have going on right now and Im am not going to particpate or agree to anything that will promote more of it. "
RB: "I found what I want for my birthday."
Me: "Tell me about it"
RB: " A flat screen tv for me and the house."
That freakish control thing he gets going every so often must be some kind of ego trip. He has always been big on nice birthday gifts for me, so in most cases I would not think twice about giving him whatever he wants. It did surprise me a little that he asked for an $800 present when he bought me flowers and a vase for my birthday. Not to mention the fact that he just bitched at me two nights ago for spending $14 on the bathroom!!! $14!! I re-tiled the floor myslef for $14 and he was mad!!! Of course, I didnt listen then either, I just hung up the phone and left it off the hook. Mature, yea, I know, but like I said before, I'm not into listening to regular rants and complaints. (If he needs to download, he should start blogging)
To try to appease this outlandish request by trying to include "the house" is ridiculous. We cant even share a computer without a fight.
He must think I'm stupid.
posted by Gigglezngrinz at 1:46 PM
11 Comments:
I hate to do this, but I think alot of this comes down to men being men about their toys, especially their electronics.
I have always been the most attentive, loving boyfriend... or so I was told. Except when the computer or tv or dvd player (you get the idea) took over my brain.
It may not help, but maybe it explains his behavior. It's not him talking, it's his need for newer and better gadgets (and his protectiveness of the gadgets he already owns...)
Dan,
He is an electronics nerd. Loves new toys.I wont play with his computer anymore. I told him I dont want to know the password. Just dont ask me to give up mine.
And he needs to stop bitching like a woman. (sorry ladies, but you know the stereotype.)
Oh dan - thanks for the honesty.
flowers vs a TV? That's fair...
He must be a great lover, otherwise...
I agree with squid. Buy him his flat screen tv, but tell him the hidden remote is only for the "house" to use.
Great idea, Manica.
I agree with Dan to a certain extent, but I can tell you how things go in my house. I built a desktop that is essentially mine, with all the development programs on it and MS Office for my wife. We have separate accounts so she can't change what settings I have and I have also given her an administrator account so she can do what she wants essentially. But I draw the line at installing stuff since that can cause numerous problems. We also bought a laptop a few months ago that runs on my wireless network I set up here. She also uses it for school and logs on wirelessly there, but I use it in the living room for most of my blogging. It's good to have the network since we can both be online and she prefers to use the desktop, so everything is working out. Give and take, but I still maintain the efficiency of my desktop for any work I have to do.
Hi. Just stopping by. I'm bipolar too.
He kind of sounds like my husband.
i agree with Manica, but on a slightly different take...get the TV, but program it in a way where he cant watch any sports, cable porn or anything else guy-related.
or.......
get the TV, but dont put batteries in it, and if you have batteries, hide 'em.
just some suggestions.....
Squid, yea he is a great lover.....not that he's getting any practice with his current attitude.
UPDATE: We went shopping this weekend. I was assuming for a birthday present for him. (He is quite childish about his birthday)
We ended up in an electronics store, where he tried to insist on buying me a DVD recorder for my birthday. Unfortunately, they didnt have the brand HE wanted. My birthday was almost two months ago.
Maggs - thanks for stopping!
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